Barriers to Communication in Relationships | Hot Momma Gossip

Barriers to communication are wide and varied. ?When I was a child, I very seldom talked to boys, out of fear of what I might say, what would come out of my mouth ? whether it would come out smoothly or garbled and indistinguishable. ?So talking to a boy was, God forbid, horrendous! ?For a lot of shy, tongue-tied teenagers, and adults as well, that still holds true. ?But so do a number of the following reasons.

Gender

Women and men are constantly at odds trying not only to communicate but to understand one another, each thinking what the heck is the matter with the other. ?However, research has shown that men speak more logically and compartmentalized ?while women tend to be more emotionally charged in their speech. ?Women in a relationship usually wish to explain a situation and go into each and every minute detail. ?Men, on the other hand, just want the facts, ma?am. ?Get to the point. ?Any extraneous talk is very often thought of as annoying chatter that a man?s brain seems ?unable to handle and process.

Culture

Cultural differences can certainly impede a couple?s relationship and bring it to its knees. ?What?s perfectly respectable to say in one culture might be a taboo subject ?in another.

Language

I say tomato, you say TOE-MA-TOE. ?Whatever. ?Communication can be tough enough on the average day, but throw in language barriers and you have a whopper. ?While multi-linguists have no difficulty in picking up the basic tenants of another language, nonetheless, most languages have nuances, ?ticks? and idioms that change continuously and can vary from state to state.

Perception and Emotion

Just as I was afraid to speak to boys out of a linguistic fear, men and women hold back emotionally for fear of how they will be perceived. ?If I reveal such-and-such, she?ll think less of me. ?As it is, the average person already has a number of assumptions built upon the various stories they?ve told themselves over a life-time. If they?ve ever revealed anything of importance to anyone and been ridiculed because of it, the person becomes more and more reticent. ?However, relationships are built on the foundation of trust; trust that a partner can speak freely, bare their soul when necessary, and still be accepted without absolute judgment. ?And until a partner feels secure within a relationship, they?re bound to be sparse in really opening up and speaking freely.

Core Communication Competencies

Communication is more than speech. ?Communication competency, as Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) explains it is the ability to not only speak effectively, but listen effectively as well (to be heard as the ?sender? and to ?hear? as the receiver), to make requests instead of demands and forgo criticism and complaint, and to know when and how to give effective feedback. Absent these abilities, communication will always hit a snag in some form or another.

Source: http://www.hotmommagossip.com/2011/09/17/barriers-to-communication-in-relationships/

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